How To Refurbish Your Defective Relationship


Refurbishment is the distribution of products; usually electronics that have been previously returned to a manufacturer or vendor for various reasons. Refurbished products are normally tested for functionality and defects before they are sold. It is repaired from the manufacturer and resold.


The main difference between "refurbished" and "used" products is that refurbished products have been tested and verified to function properly, and are thus free of defects, while "used" products may or may not be defective. Refurbished products may be unused customer returns that are essentially "new" items, or they may be defective products that were returned under warranty, and resold by the manufacturer after repairing the defects and ensuring proper function.[1]  (Wikipedia)


We want to clear the air on repairing broken relationships. There is a process to fix, mend, repair or "refurbish” relationships.

If a device is sold and returned within a certain time period it can't be resold as new. If a device has a problem that an in-store tech can't fix the device is sent back to the warehouse where it can be repaired or used for parts. The device is sent through a 100 point check to assure it will provide the customer with a device that works satisfactorily. In either case the customer needs are met.


In our relationships we sometimes need to get back to the manufacturer for a check up that only the maker can perform. Whatever went wrong or was wrong from the beginning can be refurbished. Remember refurbished is not used! Used can be defective while refurbished has been made free from defects. The manufacturer stands behind refurbished as if it was new!


It's checked with poor parts replaced or in our case here's 5 points to look for regarding your relationships:


1. Attitude: It is necessary to always check our attitudes. If we are honest with ourselves we know when our attitudes “stink.” It may take a little adjustment or it may take getting counsel to help the adjustment. Either way the adjustment is necessary.


2. Priorities: With the world (careers, school, activities, etc.) putting such a demand on us it can become hard to prioritize. We have to put things in the right perspective for the right time. For example God, family, job and then sometimes depending on the situation it may change God, job, family. Planning your month, week or day is a big help in keeping things in the right order.


3. Boundaries: It is important to set and respect the other person’s boundaries. Whether you are married or single it is important to respect the other person’s time, space and things.


4.  Goals: Set goals together and as an individual. It is important to be the biggest cheerleader and to encourage for your mate or loved one as they thrive to meet their goals. When one person accomplishes a goal it is for the better of the team.


5. Forgiveness: Do not allow old baggage or circumstances to continue to “creep” into your relationships. Forgive and move on. When it tries to “creep” back in tell yourself  "I have been forgiven or I forgive and have dealt with it!"


Here are some myths that are not true when it comes to your relationships. The comparison between devices vs relationships.

MYTHS:

Devices Relationships

Device will never perform like new                                   I can never be forgiven for this

Just like the company wants and need you satisfied so that they can be successful-God’s forgiveness allows you to overcome any challenges so that you can be successful. This Company wants to cheat me                                  This situation will never change by giving me damaged goods.                                       (lying, cheating, etc)

2 Corinthians 5:17-If any man is in Christ. He is a new creature. The old things are passed away, behold they are become new. I don't need to do anything to maintain                         I don't need to change, you my device.                                                                         are the problem.

The fact that self-maintenance is a problem for customers is not time sensitive. We need to check our device or hearts regularly to maintain effective change.